May 23rd, gratitude birthday entry:
If I was to place an ad for a friend, it would be something along these lines:
Wanted but not needed, since I totally dig my cave: friend – preferably introverted; must refrain from small talk, be willing to dive deep into existential angst with me, dislike loud noises and big crowds; being well-read is a huge plus; reply to….
If you’ve niggled your way into my inner circle, you’re likely quirky, intense, kind, and have experienced some hard knocks. HSPs (highly sensitive people) just make sense to me. Lotsa common ground, safe space. Big heart connection. As an introvert, I dig introvert-space. They read me and I them.
If you’ve met me, you may think, “You, Lisa, an introvert? But you own your own biz, sing in front of crowds, teach, blog on-line….”
Which means we need to talk. Because “introvert” and “extrovert” refer to the way one recharges their energies, not whether they appear outgoing. Introverts recharge their batteries alone, apart from the crowds, often in nature; extroverts recharge their batteries within the group.
My sister is a classic extrovert. When she feels low in her vibe, she plans a party, orders a DJ, organizes the menu, and sends out the invites. Let the adventure begin!
As an introvert, when I feel low on vibe, I head out to the woods or into a saltwater bath. I turn off all electronics and get under the covers. Let the adventure begin… without me!
Thank God for both introverts and extroverts. Without my sister, I’d never have a party to go to… and without me, there would be no one to come late and leave early.
I met these two when asked to partake in a book club. Meeting about ten times yearly, we’ve read and unpacked so many books… our conversations are wide, high, and deep, though not too long as we scurry off to our next appointment. I feel so blessed to be a part of our book tribe. The books we’ve read and the conversations we’ve shared have helped me grow by opening me up to various ways of seeing things.
Especially as an introvert, I think it would be too easy for me to hide in my cave… and never get outside of my own opinion. Monthly book club meeting have been instrumental in my expanding consciousness by reading others’ experiences, sharing my own adventures, and listening to others’ views as well.
Have you ever been with someone who does not listen well? Or who does not receive your differing opinion with grace? I find that maturity of soul and expansion of consciousness begs each of us to shut our mouths and open our ears. Tendering our hearts and extending our vibes to hold space for another is a mighty act of Love. Healing for all involved.
I’ve been on both the speaking and listening end of the conversation in our book club. We three look to each other to share, wonder aloud, and wander through the forest of possibilities. It’s just so much damn fun! I’ve chewed up a number of books that I would never have picked up on my own.
Without such friendships, is growth even possible? Could it be that we were created to walk beside each other like this? That unpacking our story is beneficial for both speaker and listener? And not only beneficial, but vital. Could it be that we can only heal – or, at the very least, heal best – when among those with whom we share our story, our sadnesses and griefs, our joys and triumphs, our fears and reservations, our theories and suppositions?
My God, were even we introverts created to live among the Collective?
Barbara is quiet, insightful, and a tender listener. Humble beyond compare, she holds big space for others to share their viewpoints. I just so dig this gal!
Laurie is wonderfully chatty, has the best giggle ever, and a brassy no-nonsense way about her that intrigues me. She researches everything. If you want to know about it, ask her. She probably has it somewhere in her notes on her phone.
During our numerous conversations, often we’ve been saddened by the unlovely ways we humans can treat ourselves and each other. We worry about the direction of humanity. There is so much low vibe, hatred, abuse, separation.
That said, we’ve read so many books that have reminded us of the immense and breathtakingly beautiful kindnesses we humans can manage one to the other. We surely do possess a chasmic ability to love and be loved. We really do.
And so, our song is What A Wonderful World. Because it is. And we are Awesome Beings who are on our journey… and it’s messy and we’re messy… but we’re also fun, insightful, generous, tree-hugging, hilarious, intelligent, courageous.
We’re philanthropists and scientists, teachers and writers, singers and dancers. We err and forgive, fall and get back up. We try, and try, and try again. We dare to dream. We’re introverts and extroverts. We are Love walking around in skin… waking up to remembering our holiness, our unique yumminess.
Introverted or extroverted, outgoing or quiet, speaker or listener… we’re all invited into this Shindig called Life.
And this is a party even we introverts wanna join in on… woot woot!
Barbara and Laurie, I love you.
You. Complete. Me.
Much love & hope,