May 24th, birthday gratitude entry:
I liked her immediately. Like, have-we-known-each-other-forever liked her. Her absolute devotion to being the best version of herself is awe-inspiring to me. What an example of using each moment wisely in this lifetime! She just so desperately wants to learn and grow, help and evolve. She’s on a mission…
A mission into the depths of her Self.
A mission into the depths of the rough memories.
A mission into the depths of motherhood.
A mission into the depths of being a friend, a wife, a sister, a daughter.
A mission into the depths of healing body, soul, mind.
Marissa West… one of the coolest souls ever.
She’s my sister and fellow tribe member.
She’s my sounding board.
She’s my biggest fan.
She’s my Amiga.
The two of us have gobs in common. We admit to making mistakes because we didn’t know any better. We strive to do better once we know better. We agree that motherhood is the biggest honor and the toughest task set before us. We are head-over-heels for our husbands, crazy in love with our kids (who sometimes drive us craaaaaaazy), and provide safe space for our extended family.
Together, we are trekking this amazing journey called Life. I couldn’t ask for a more honest, intense, and well-intentioned friend. She’s determined, curious, and courageous (even though she doesn’t think so… she is!) What she has endured – some of the things she’s shared – well, they take my breath away. I’m left admiring her tenacity and depth of character. Being with her, listening and wrestling through that big twisted ball of yarn, just makes my whole day. She vibes high, deep, wide, and long.
And life, oh life… it hasn’t been easy for her. She’s faced some pretty scary situations and beasty-kinda peeps… and at the end of the day, she’s still freakin’ standing.
Still trying to make sense of some of the nonsense of we struggling humans.
Still aching to forgive those who knew no better way to be in relationship with her.
Still wrestling with a wee bit of heartache.
But, gosh darnit, still standing. She’s a powerhouse! I mean… who keeps on keeping on like that?
And gratitude? Don’t get me started! She’s generous (if there is unicorn anything out there, she snags it and adds to my collection… and her casa es her kids’ numerous friends’ casa… truly, the place to be.) She’s honoring and loyal. She’s wild! She’s determined!
I’ve never walked a mile in her shoes, but I’ve walked a few beside her… and her bluntness to admit her faults still leaves me stunned. She does not sugarcoat the rough tough times she’s experienced, nor does she paint herself to be perfect.
It’s true that Life has not dealt her an easy hand… but you will not find her sitting in Victim-Valley. She pursues peace with a passion. If ever I’ve had to speak a difficult I’m-afraid-this-is-going-to-hurt-her-feelings Truth, she listens intently and thanks me for loving her enough to point shit out. I mean…. who keeps on keeping on like that?
She would want me to give a shout out to her husband, Rob, who is her rock and to whom she is so grateful for his love and care… and her two main squeezes, Hector and Jave. These three guys are her world, her very heart. They are three very, very blessed souls.
And we in Marissa’s tribe are also very blessed to know her and to watch her “become.” What an honor it is for me personally to witness this beautiful soul remember her holiness, awesomeness, and mission to love her-self.
Big time example to me.
I get it. It’s not easy to work through emotions, work on unlearning and relearning our truth, work out relationship difficulties… the holy process of healing is definitely a journey, a walking along in patience with oneself and others.
It’s Not Easy, no. But… with her raw, genuine desire to heal… the world will reap gobs of high vibe. We will learn a thing or two, or three, from this authentic soul who has turned my personal space right-side-up. She’s given me hope that, with determination and utmost honesty with oneself, healing manifests, hearts are softened, minds are changed, and relationships are rebuilt.
Muchas gracias, mi Amiga, for showing me how to keep on keeping on like that. I have been honored to walk beside you… here’s to our friendship and to many, many more miles!
Marissa, I love you.
You. Complete. Me.
Much love & hope,